Ruthless Compassion Institute

I was on an airplane recently, traveling business class, and had a very enlightening experience. I’d asked for a glass of water, and when the flight attendant – a friendly, pleasant young man- was attempting to pour it, he accidentally lost control of the very full bottle, splashing water all over me and my [...]

When I was a medical student, the professors liked to show us slides of people who were suffering from advanced diseases. I imagine that this was their way of toughening us up for our future careers as physicians. It was also an opportunity for them to demonstrate what a serious illness such as cancer [...]

I want to begin by saying that I strongly disagree with the disease model of addiction and with the idea that we are powerless against our addictions. Whether someone is an alcoholic, drug-addict, or compulsive eater, gambler or shopper, addiction is not a disease but a choice, and I’ll explain why I believe this to [...]

I was yelled at in the parking lot of my local shopping plaza the other day, and I can still feel the sting. The woman doing this yelling was evidently very angry about something I was doing, but for the life of me, I can’t imagine what it was. We weren’t competing for a parking [...]

This is a cautionary tale about love and television. A happy young couple with twins decide to try again for one more baby. They use fertility drugs to help them conceive and end up with sextuplets. Even though they both have good jobs, there’s no way that they can meet the massive expenses of raising [...]

There seems to be an epidemic of bad advice that young women and men are giving their friends these days, and all it seems to be doing is alienating the two sexes even further. One has to wonder where these young people are learning their very wrong-headed ideas from, when in every other way, this [...]

Most men and women want to understand each-other and get along better, but there’s so much misinformation being spread around that few of us know where to turn for the answers. In the past, there were social rules for men and women. They didn’t make much sense, but people had a clear, if misguided idea [...]

Our mission is to educate and inform you; to bring you a greater understanding of yourself and of today’s society.
Through the articles and videos posted on this site, and through upcoming workshops and seminars, we aim to clarify the inner workings of the human psyche and show you a more direct path toward joy [...]

I love movies. Always have. And that’s why it so distresses me to see most of the leading men in Hollywood today succumbing to a terrible affliction. The longer they remain part of the star system, the less they seem to be men. A gradual process of psychological and emotional castration is neutering their masculine [...]

It’s amazing how easily people disregard reality in the pursuit of love. It’s paradoxical, but the so-called “reality” shows on television today demonstrate this trend to the greatest degree.
Take the Bachelorette. She is ostensibly on the show to find the man she’ll eventually marry and have children with. This, to me, is like going to [...]